This blog post has been slowly formulating in my mind over the last hour so thought I should just commit and send forth.
Recently, I have read two bits of advice that have not exactly been life changing, but at the very least have helped me to lighten up on some stuff. As I found them very useful I thought I would share and spread these useful words further afield.
No 1. Once you send it out into the ether, forget about it. This has almost everything to do with social media. If the following doesn’t sound like you then self congratulate on being a 100% well adjusted, perfectly confident human being. If however you can self apply (bonus points if you get the reference) then well done for being honest. You know when you post a photo on Instagram or send something out on Twitter or use FB and then you fret about that thing you sent? The advice is: Forget it. Stop worrying/stewing/feeling the need to retract it/apologise for it or explain it. How people respond is their own decision and you cannot control it.
A big massive footnote to this is obviously don’t send forth cruel, mean-spirited, hateful crap. No no no. I’m talking more like ‘oh no! I just posted an architectural photograph on Instagram and might not have cropped it properly or used the best filter! My entire self-worth is wrapped up in getting more than 27 red hearts!!’
Another example is more personal and that is of the blog. Like, uhm, this one for instance. A few days ago I sent out something honest. I am experiencing what is familiar to many. Single parenting can be tough going sometimes and I know I’m not the only one that struggles with certain themes of this kind of living. After posting, I did have a small freak out and almost deleted it. I’m glad I didn’t as it was my most read post by far. Many people sent messages saying that their experience has been similar. It’s a wonderful thing to read something that resonates. And if it made someone else feel understood or not alone in their own scenario than that too is a wonderful thing.
No 2 ‘The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck’ is a terrific read. This point is a short one. There are only so many f*cks you can give in life as you are not limitless. Your energy and time are finite so decide carefully what is worth giving those f*cks to. This also brings me back to social media. I do use it for fun and to promote my work but am I going to allow it to gauge my self worth/talent/use to society? Am I going to give one of my hard earned self respecting f*cks to that? No.
Now go forth into the world, release you pretty images of books nestled alongside vinyl in Perpetua. Do it for fun and amusement. Don’t waste your f*cks on fretting about your likes. The most important like is that you like yourself and most likely, that will make you likeable to others.